The Secure Dad
A friend just lost her father. That has to be a hard experience, the death of your dad. When she had the clarity of mind she took to social media, like many of us would, and shared about her father. She wrote of how he was humble, kind and gracious. She continues to write about how her parents taught her the true values of life and to treat others and she would want to be treated. Her honest words made me think.
When you die, what is going to be your legacy as a father?
As heartwarming as my friends words are many of us haven’t thought about what lasting impressions we will leave on our children. Some of us are just trying to put on a diaper without getting messy. But we need to be conscious about what values we will instill in our children so that when they grow up and when we pass, our children will be amazing people.
As dads, our children watch us all the time. My son picks up on my mannerisms and vocabulary. Fortunately all of them have been clean! When we think they’re not looking is when children pay us the most attention. So what will you teach your children in those subtle moments of fatherhood?
If you work all the time, it can be hard for a small child to understand that’s how you support the family. All they know is that you are gone and when you come home you are stressed and tired. This might lead them to think that working isn’t a good thing. If you are a workaholic like I have been, spending additional time away from your family isn’t good for anyone. When you die, don’t leave your children to say, “He was dedicated to his job.”
Going to a bar or pub every once in a while isn’t a bad thing. You need to be with adults and get out of the house. But if you change personalities when you drink or you drink too much, you may be harming more than just yourself. Alcohol abuse fractures families. Under the heavy influence of it clam men can become violent and attentive men become thoughtless. Don’t let your obituary read, “He was a good man except when he drank.”
You may be faithful to be at church every Sunday. The whole family may go with you. But if one day a week is when your children hear you talk about God, then are you doing them any good? Live out your faith with your children. Let them see why you love God and live a worthy life. Don’t leave your kids say when you’re gone, “He went to church, but I don’t know if he’s in heaven.”
Start thinking today about what you want your kids to know tomorrow. Not just because you want them to say nice things about you later, but because you impacted their lives a great, positive way. Today, begin to live out your legacy as a father.
Andy Murphy’s blog, www.thesecuredad.com is dedicated to family protection, home security and of course fatherhood. Follow him on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook for more ways to keep your family secure.https://www.instagram.com/thesecuredad/
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