Dads or Babysitters?

Being a dad is a completely different beast than being a mom, if someone sees a mom with her kids at a grocery store nobody bats an eyelid.  I cannot even tell you how many times I have been asked if I was babysitting with my own kids. The first time, I was taken aback and got defensive and told them it was called fathering.  I have since tried to come up with more clever responses and see what kind of reaction I can get, one of my favourite is telling them that my mommy tells me I’m not allowed to…

The Birth of Theo & The NICU Days

This post is going to be the story of the day Theo was born and the next six weeks. I’m going to give a brief look into the day before he was born, I was just finishing work, sitting in my manager’s office on a Friday having a chat about my pregnant girlfriend and hoping I could meet my son soon, she told me to enjoy the time and not to wish time away. So I went home to begin my “normal” weekend with my pregnant girlfriend. So it’s a quiet morning, the in-laws are planning to go out so…

F#@K Suicide

I genuinely hate suicide. I don’t mean those that die from suicide but the thought, the act, the plague on a person’s mind that suicide is. I understand why people kill themselves, as much as I wish I could stop it. F#@k suicide! This year I’ve lost people to suicide including two hugely influential musical figures who I had no personal relationship with. I say I’ve lost them as I have used music as a source of therapy for as long as I can remember. Their music being particular sources of strength. Losing all of these people to the disease that…

Your Legacy as a Father

The Secure Dad A friend just lost her father. That has to be a hard experience, the death of your dad. When she had the clarity of mind she took to social media, like many of us would, and shared about her father. She wrote of how he was humble, kind and gracious. She continues to write about how her parents taught her the true values of life and to treat others and she would want to be treated. Her honest words made me think. When you die, what is going to be your legacy as a father? As heartwarming as…

Fight or Flight – Parenting Choices

You may already be familiar with the term ‘Fight’ or ‘Flight’, but have you ever thought about how it affects your everyday life? How it affects your parenting? My aim in this blog is to give you more power over the decisions you have made as well as the confidence to make new decisions. For those not familiar, the psychological concept founded by physiologist Walter Cannon suggests that when presented with a conflict or stress, your brain works to resolve it by retreating or diving right into the conflict. It’s part of our body’s primitive, automatic, inborn response. That conflict can…

Mental Health in a Care Setting – An Essay

This week’s blog is a little different to the usual. Having recently completed my HNC in Social Care I was looking back over assignments I had written. I was tasked with writing an essay about ‘mental health in a care setting’, which I very much enjoyed doing. I found the assignment very insightful and thought you might too. I’ve attached my references at the bottom also for further reading if it takes your interest. Please bear in mind that I had to hit certain knowledge points and so it at time lacks the direction I might put into a blog.   This assignment was to also include…